Unleash your inner Skettel! Fervida!

The flyer read, Come out and taste Fervida - sensuality unleashed.  The part that really got my attention?  Come and try us on for size. Say what?!  O.K. before you all start thinking that I went to a group orgy, Fervida is Italian for intense or passionate and is a six-week workshop hosted by Caleen Diedrick.

Caleen is UWI graduate with a degree in Psychology. The workshop is primarily for women (there is also a course for couples) facilitated through interactive rap and dance sessions… and a whole lot more! The course is designed to help women own what Caleen calls “our sexual presence,” to exude confidence and assert ourselves whether in the boardroom or the bedroom.

If you must know, YES! I was super excited to attend the free trial of the workshop. Excitement turned to apprehension, however, when I received an instant message from Caleen instructing me to dress in gym attire; bring a vibrator or dildo and a pair of stilettos.

Whoa! Wait! What?! “But I don’t own a dildo!” I protested.

Without skipping a beat she responded, “Bring a cucumber or anything else that you can put in your mouth!”

Say what!

After I declared to hubby the items needed for this course, he blurted out, “What exactly will you guys be doing at this place?”

“I don’t know! I just know there will be no sex! She did say so on the Facebook.”

“Hmph,”he responded.

After helping me to select my attire and shoes, we were out the door as hubby volunteered to drop me at the evening of the unknown.

As we drove past Liguanea, I suddenly remembered, “Oh shoot, I don’t have my cucumber!”

"Where were you planning to get it?"

"At the supermarket!"

He kept on driving and I had the feeling that he wasn’t displeased that I had forgotten.

As we entered the venue, there was music pumping and a nice number of women were already seated. Well, its outdoors so it definitely can’t be too freaky, I said to my hesitant self.

Caleen is clad in a sexy pair of black leggings, her midriff is exposed and her navel-ring sparkles. Her tiny top covers her breasts, her hair is cropped low and as she confidently saunters to take the microphone, I can’t help but think - well there is no better person to give this course. She oozes sex!

And so the rap session began with some hard-hitting truths:

1. Most females are severely repressed even those of us who often claim to be liberal.
2. When it comes to issues of sex and sexuality, many women lead lives of quiet desperation.
3. Where sex is concerned most women have been shafted (and not in the good way) because we have been trained and socialized to preserve a man’s ego at our own expense.
4. As women (and with this I wholeheartedly agree) we are our worst critics. We bitterly condemn and criticize our fellow females.
5. The aforementioned condemnation and criticism are often nothing but an expression of our own insecurities in the presence of the said females.
6. We don’t know or fail to explore our own bodies so how do we expect a man to know how to please us?
7. We don’t know the male anatomy (which was quite evident when she asked us to label a penis that was drawn on the whiteboard) so how can we expect to really engage our men?
8. We are more caught up in our physical flaws which often inhibit us than our male partners

The discussion kicked off with the question, "What is meant by the term sexual presence?"

The feedback from the ladies varied: emanating or oozing sex, being in touch with one’s femininity and sensuality, the ability to induce chemical reaction in order to attract members of the opposite sex, free-flowing, alluring, uninhibited.

When asked how many of us felt that we could be described in the terms expressed above, only two brave souls among us would so admit.

Can you say repressed? Hell, yes I am!

To encourage us to loosen up and tap into our inner “skettel,” Caleen resorted to music. In her words, music has a spirit. I agree. By the inner skettel, she means and by the way you know this is true; the girl that comes out when you are home alone (or among your girlfriends) and you secretly “bruk out” to “Gyal you see you batty rider murda”, or “If di man lef a no my Pu—y fault” and if you are really bold enough to admit it, you might have even “Pat the P and call you man name” while proclaiming “Man a no mi problem cause mi Pum Pum tun up!”

Of course, we wouldn’t be caught dead doing the aforementioned in public! But in the safety of our bedrooms, where our bedpost becomes the go-go pole, we are uninhibited and the true self comes out! No judgment.

It is some of that bold confidence that Caleen contends can be channeled into other spheres of our lives with great results. She calls it, tapping into the authentic. And again she uttered another truth:

Many of us have become too much of a chameleon, always trying to fit in and adjust to society’s expectations of us. We don’t know who we are. Worst yet, if we are really into a guy, we become whomever he wants us to be, losing ourselves in the process.  Can I get an Amen?

Then it was on to bedroom lessons, in particular, learning the anatomy of the penis and tips on performing fellatio (Yes, you read correctly!)

I am not sure if it was hilarious or just pitiful that most of us (including myself) could not name all the scientific parts of the penis. Oh well, thanks to my trusty smart phone that problem was easily solved and in any event, how many men can accurately identify all the parts of the vagina?

[Go google a photo of the penis yourself!]

“Therein lies the problem!” Caleen exclaimed at our dismal performance.

After properly identifying the respective parts of the penis, there were some smart tips on how to deliver mind-blowing blow jobs! Let’s just say if I was of a light complexion, I would turn crimson red during this session. And in that moment I was very, very happy that I had forgotten my cucumber!

Alas, I am bounded by the same inhibitions of which Caleen speaks.

Embarrassment aside, we were then all asked to model our stilettos and a commentary was given on what our shoes revealed about our personality. The lesson: learn to be comfortable in our skin, know what we want and boldly go for it, exude confidence in every sphere of our lives and you guessed it... to become sex goddesses!

Did I enjoy the free trial? Immensely. Would I recommend her classes? Absolutely! Will I be doing the six-week course? Well, not just yet. I still need to muster up a lot more courage as I am a far way from being the uninhibited sex goddess I so imagine myself to be!

P.S. If you are interested the course starts October 1, 2012 and you can visit Fervida's Facebook page. As I mentioned earlier there is also a couples segment. Maybe I can convince hubby to tag along with me 🙂